Staying Together for the Kids

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.”Jennifer Weiner Divorce, once an unreasonable concept in my life, is now my reality and, much to my own surprise, I find it easier to say it aloud to people. When... Continue Reading →

What Happens Next?

"If you let yourself shatter and then you put yourself back together, piece by piece, you wake up one day and realize that you have been completely reassembled. You are whole again, and strong, but you are suddenly a new shape, a new size. The change that happens to people who really sit in their... Continue Reading →

New Normal

We're living in a new normal. For me, a new normal has been a long time coming. Before anyone regularly included the terms COVID, social distancing, antibodies, or reopening the economy in their everyday vernacular, I was already in quarantine. Before the first case of coronavirus was reported and the ensuing pandemic declared, I was... Continue Reading →

Loneliness

lonely adjective, lone·li·er, lone·li·est. affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome.destitute of sympathetic or friendly companionship, intercourse, support, etc.:a lonely exile.lone; solitary; without company; companionless.remote from places of human habitation; desolate; unfrequented; bleak:a lonely road.standing apart; isolated:a lonely tower. Someone referred to me as a lonely woman today. I had a... Continue Reading →

Gratitude

Going through a divorce is rarely easy. I consider mine to be one of the easier ones and it is still incredibly challenging. There's always latent anger, hurt, disappointment, frustration and anxiety associated with the process and, when kids are involved, it is exponentially more difficult. However, there are also wonderful little gifts that show... Continue Reading →

Talking

When I was in elementary school, my report cards would consistently come home with notes from my teachers saying that I was a great student but would probably benefit from being a little less chatty. I always had a lot to say. I guess that is because talking, writing, communicating, in general, is how I... Continue Reading →

How Do I Do This?

About eight years ago, I started a blog that helped me work through some very personal issues including coming to accept myself, dealing with the deaths of both of my parents from whom I had been estranged, and sorting through the ups and downs of my marriage. There are hundreds of posts that deeply explore... Continue Reading →

Telling the Kids

After breaking the news to my ex-husband, I presumed that I had jumped over the highest hurdle. Saying the words for the first time to someone other than my therapist felt like a huge leap forward and, seemingly, anything that followed would be easier. When the initial shock wore off for him and he settled... Continue Reading →

And so it begins….

I’m getting a divorce. I’m now a statistic. We all know the data. According to the CDC, nearly 50% of marriages end up in divorce. I was married for 25 years so, by all accounts, I did ok. I stuck it out. My marriage weathered many storms. We endured financial crises, emotional baggage, betrayals, disappointments,... Continue Reading →

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